APPROACH
At Depth & Desire, Dr. Valerie brings careful attention to the many elements that shape success in being a better partner to yourself and others. Thoughtful and perceptive, she asks insightful questions that encourage deeper understanding and a broader perspective on your experiences. With a combined approach rooted in both the mind–body–spirit connection and unconscious dynamics, she emphasizes whole-person exploration rather than relying on a single method or technique.
Her sessions are guided by genuine interest, a personable style, and a preference for “real talk” over jargon. She thinks outside the box, adhering to ethical standards while also sometimes prompting unconventional solutions. Committed to ongoing learning, Valerie continually integrates new skills and wisdom to ensure your sessions remain fresh, relevant, and effective.
Whether clients seek self-exploration through creative modalities, psychological inspired analysis, pragmatic strategy for transformative change, or general supportive care, Valerie engages with a combination of generous warmth, humor, and an expectation to help clients achieve the results they desire.
Background
Valerie Bellenger, PsyD
Valerie is a doctor of counseling psychology, a certified dating coach and a registered mental health clinician specializing in intimacy and relationship concerns.
Before her psychology career, Valerie worked in media and erotic entertainment - experiences that provided her rare insight into the role of fantasy, vulnerability, and desire in shaping human intimacy. These perspectives continue to inform her integrative, relational approach - where curiosity, compassion, and a respect for the full spectrum of human experience are central.
Beyond her supervised post-doctoral clinical training in addiction treatment and independent work as a coach and consultant, Valerie enjoys adventure, creative expression and facilitating meaningful social interactions. She is the organizer of Dîner En Feu, a developing event meant to bring people together to engage in exciting, thought provoking discussions about sex and relationships that are all too often avoided.
Her dissertation, Integrating The Sexual Shadow: A Jungian Approach to Strengthening Relationships, was written to better understand the depth behind the consumer's experience of purchased intimacy, and what transactional eroticism can teach us about designing healthier relationships.
Let's Work Together
Individuals curious about beginning their journey may book their consultation here. Returning clients are also welcome to book an appointment anytime online. No need to fuss with back-and-forth emails about schedule and availability. Valerie’s calendar is available to everyone directly from the site for the easiest booking process available. Confirmation and reminder emails are sent automatically and payments are processed securely all from one place at one time. Further details, such as rates and conditions, are available through the "Schedule Appointment" button below.
Are We A Match?
The best paired clients are motivated adult individuals (single or in relationships) who identify with any of the following:
* wish to better understand the way they relate to others
* would like to better understand jealousy or infidelity
* are or have been affair partners
* practice non-monogamous, or CNM/ENM lifestyles
* are in the kink community
* are partners at a crossroads their relationships
* wish to experience a more vibrant, erotic life
* are healing from an erotic wound
* are experiencing midlife issues, perimenopause, or andropause
* are, have been, know or wish to better understand sex workers
* feel misunderstood or marginalized
* would benefit from general, supportive check-ins
* would benefit from accountability or activity partnering
* would feel more inspired with motivational coaching
* are seeking to create a more conscious space through feng-shui inspired, design therapy
* are interested in creative writing or narrative therapy guided exercises
* seek self-realization
* would like help getting into or back into the dating pool
* want to become better communicators
* wish to develop their erotic identity
* want to break free from normative life scripts
INITIATE THE CONNECTION
Change the way you relate
Initiate the connection and drop a note! Begin the conversation here to be given an email and phone number for more fluid communication.
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